SFL 240 Response #4 Authoritative Parenting
During this class I have realized that I need to think be thinking about what type of parent I want to be even though I am single and have no children. I have always loved children, and I felt like parenting would come natural to me. Personally, I still believe that there are so many things about parenting that can never be conveyed in a classroom to single adults with pens and pencils in their hands and text books in their back packs. Do you want to be a parent who loves their child, teaches their children to regulate themselves, and does not have to be aggressive and overbearing on punishments and reinforcements? That sounds just about right. Who really in their right mind would not want to be an authoritative parent? I don’t think that is what makes it difficult to be an authoritative parent though. There are several things that I have learned in this class some things that I will never ever do, things that I want to change, and even things that I am going to do for sure.
That brings me to the next thing that I learned, I learned that I do not have to parent my children the same way that my parents parented me. Not only do I not have to be the same parent to my child that my parents were to me, but it is logically impossible if I want to be an authoritative parent. It seems that the key ingredient to an authoritative parent is that they are so acutely aware of their child that they adjust. In turn the child learns to adjust their life to the parents. It is based on a relationship and not on a dictator ship.
After taking this class I have started a list of things that I never going to do and at the top is that I am not going to spank my children. I was spanked as a child, and honestly I have never really thought much about the concept besides that sometimes children get spanked. First of I will never deny that my parents love me, and that they taught me very well.
Friday, October 1, 2010
SFL 240 reaction #5
SFL 240 Response #5 Parenting Pyramid
I added one more bottom layer to the Parenting Pyramid. Because of I believe that in order for me to become the best person that I can be I need to have a strong relationship with my Heavenly Father I added my relationship between God and Me onto the base of the Parenting Pyramid. In the original diagram’s last layer is the self relationship. How someone interacts with themselves and their personal beliefs and values. A self relationship is an important relationship to develop, but I know that I do not always have good judgment. Often times I underestimate virtues or I do not see the real problems I have within myself; either because I have over exaggeration or in diminished my thoughts and actions. I think that if there is something wrong with myself relationship that I can go down to the bottom layer of the Pyramid and solve the problems I am having a strong relationship with my Heavenly Father. He is all knowing and has perfect judgment. All the while my Heavenly Father loves me perfectly and will help me overcome my problems patiently.
The Parenting Pyramid is one of my favorite things that we have discussed in class so far, because I can see the practicality of this system. In the Parenting Pyramid diagram I think that the image of a pyramid better captures the message of the article than simply layers.
I am glad that the author chose to do the Parenting Pyramid and not the Parenting Layers. There are a few things different about a pyramid than a layer. For starters the Pyramid gets smaller at the top, but a layer does not. A pyramid is large at the bottom, and a layer is the same size top and bottom. In a pyramid divided horizontally the sections cannot be mixed up, but they have to go in the particular order or else the pyramid will no longer work. In a diagram that is layered the layers can be mixed up, reorganized, and scrabbled and the diagram’s shape will not change.
First, I believe that the author used the image of a pyramid so that the reader could not mix the order. Like I mentioned above in a pyramid divided horizontally the piece that goes at the top has to be at the top, and the piece that is the 3rd down cannot be moved to the top and have the pyramid balanced. By using a pyramid the author conveys the idea that the layers in the Parenting Pyramid have an order, and if those layers are not in order than the whole thing will be unbalanced.
The other thing that I think the author wanted the reader to understand was that the upper layers of the pyramid are smaller than the bottom layers of the pyramid because they are not as influential. I do not know if influential is the right word to use in this sentence, because yes taking control over your child’s life and restricting what they can and cannot do is not only very controlling, but is very influential on the child. I think that the more appropriate word would be effective. The bottom layers are more effective than the top layers. It is important to remember your goal as a parent while raising children, and then to adjust what you do as a parent to that goal. If the goal of a parent is to help their child learn self regulation than the Parenting Pyramid appears to be the most effective style, because it involves the parent teaching the child while the parent recognizes that they are still learning themselves.
I added one more bottom layer to the Parenting Pyramid. Because of I believe that in order for me to become the best person that I can be I need to have a strong relationship with my Heavenly Father I added my relationship between God and Me onto the base of the Parenting Pyramid. In the original diagram’s last layer is the self relationship. How someone interacts with themselves and their personal beliefs and values. A self relationship is an important relationship to develop, but I know that I do not always have good judgment. Often times I underestimate virtues or I do not see the real problems I have within myself; either because I have over exaggeration or in diminished my thoughts and actions. I think that if there is something wrong with myself relationship that I can go down to the bottom layer of the Pyramid and solve the problems I am having a strong relationship with my Heavenly Father. He is all knowing and has perfect judgment. All the while my Heavenly Father loves me perfectly and will help me overcome my problems patiently.
The Parenting Pyramid is one of my favorite things that we have discussed in class so far, because I can see the practicality of this system. In the Parenting Pyramid diagram I think that the image of a pyramid better captures the message of the article than simply layers.
I am glad that the author chose to do the Parenting Pyramid and not the Parenting Layers. There are a few things different about a pyramid than a layer. For starters the Pyramid gets smaller at the top, but a layer does not. A pyramid is large at the bottom, and a layer is the same size top and bottom. In a pyramid divided horizontally the sections cannot be mixed up, but they have to go in the particular order or else the pyramid will no longer work. In a diagram that is layered the layers can be mixed up, reorganized, and scrabbled and the diagram’s shape will not change.
First, I believe that the author used the image of a pyramid so that the reader could not mix the order. Like I mentioned above in a pyramid divided horizontally the piece that goes at the top has to be at the top, and the piece that is the 3rd down cannot be moved to the top and have the pyramid balanced. By using a pyramid the author conveys the idea that the layers in the Parenting Pyramid have an order, and if those layers are not in order than the whole thing will be unbalanced.
The other thing that I think the author wanted the reader to understand was that the upper layers of the pyramid are smaller than the bottom layers of the pyramid because they are not as influential. I do not know if influential is the right word to use in this sentence, because yes taking control over your child’s life and restricting what they can and cannot do is not only very controlling, but is very influential on the child. I think that the more appropriate word would be effective. The bottom layers are more effective than the top layers. It is important to remember your goal as a parent while raising children, and then to adjust what you do as a parent to that goal. If the goal of a parent is to help their child learn self regulation than the Parenting Pyramid appears to be the most effective style, because it involves the parent teaching the child while the parent recognizes that they are still learning themselves.
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